Avoiding Ghosting and Reneging

By: Jyoti D

Fall is a recruiting season where you’ll hear a lot about students who have already accepted an offer or have pending offers on the table. If you are one of those students, congratulations!! If you aren’t, that’s completely fine and you still have plenty of time. Whether you have already accepted a job or are still in the process, it’s important to know how to handle all of the pieces that come with the acceptance and decision process. You always want to complete negotiations and decisions in a responsible and careful manner to avoid leaving a bad impression with any employer. Here are two of the more common pitfalls students can trip into and tips to avoid them.


Sometimes you’ll get an offer that you aren’t interested in or maybe even an opportunity to interview somewhere that you are no longer available for or wanting to pursue. While the easy answer is to possibly just ignore these things, that’s the completely wrong answer. Even if you are not interested in company or process anymore, it is never a good idea to ghost the recruiter. This leaves a bad impression for not only yourself but for Questrom. Employers are less likely to come back or continue recruiting at a school where they were getting students that were disinterested or worse, disrespectful. This is why you should always email the recruiter and let them know that you have either already accepted an alternate offer or that you cannot continue with the application/interview process. This leaves the door open for a professional relationship down the road and does not burn a bridge that could potentially be important later. Additionally, by doing this step early, you are letting the company make an offer or extend an opportunity to another candidate who may really want that role/company.


Maybe you’ve gotten an offer, but you’ve since found something different that you also want to accept and now, you’re changing your mind on that first offer. That’s called reneging and it’s something you always want to avoid doing. Once you have signed an offer and committed to the job, you are essentially done with your recruiting process. You would want to withdraw from any other applications or interviews you have in progress and you would cease searching for further opportunities. When you back out of an offer and accept something else, not only does it reflect poorly on you, but it also burns a professional bridge for you at that company. Additionally, as mentioned in ghosting, reneging can also affect BU’s relationship with the firm and can portray Questrom in a bad light.

There can be times when reneging is necessary and, in those instances, you want to handle the conversation with the utmost respect and professionalism. It should always be done on the phone, not email, and should be apologetic in nature. If you HAVE to renege, always come talk to a UDC Career Advisor or a Feld IRM so they can work with you and, potentially, the company.

As always, anytime you have an offer, come get support from the UDC. We have resources to help you decide, negotiate, withdraw, or ask for more time if you have multiple opportunities to explore.

By Trish Harper